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Is it sinful to watch pornography with my spouse before sex? Here is the answer

Pastor John Piper

Pastor John Piper

Is it sinful to watch pornography with my spouse before sex? This is a question many people have been asking over the years, says Pastor John Piper, the chancellor of Bethlehem College & Seminary, U.S.

Piper in a podcast posted on Tuesday in his website DesiringGod.org , said women had been asking him this question severally.

“It comes to us sometimes from men, but mostly from perplexed women.Most recently the question comes from an anonymous listener who simply asks: ‘Pastor John, is it sinful to watch pornography with my spouse before sex?'”

He answered, “Yes it is. It is sin.In that sacred moment, corruption is abounding in three directions: toward Christ, toward the spouse — which I assume is a wife here being asked to do this — and the marriage, and toward the people in the pornography.”

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Piper said sex between husband and wife is “the apex of marital pleasures that represent the pure and holy pleasures between Christ and His Church. That is the meaning of sexual intercourse.”

He added, “This act of marital sexual union is one of the most intense expressions of the very meaning of marriage; namely, the truth of the words — and I mean words spoken, I pray, in the sexual embrace with your eyes six inches from hers — ‘You have I chosen above all others. You alone are the one where I feast with pure and unsullied pleasure. I have eyes for no one but you. I do not run after other women in my mind or in my body. I am utterly devoted to you with my mind, with my eyes, with my body. You alone are my pleasure.”

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“That is marriage. That is how the Lord Jesus relates to his bride. That is what you vow at the altar. He has eyes, Jesus has eyes for no other.What does it say about Christ and his love to His Church if you feed the moment of sweetest, purest union with the poison of putrid food from pornographic sexual sin?”

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“And make no mistake, the performing and filming of pornographic acts is sin. What they are doing is sin. They are not acting for the glory of God as you watch them. They are not acting in step with the Gospel. They are not pursuing holiness without which no one will see the Lord” (Hebrews 12:14).

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